Ask Paul B: Family Gay Bashers!!!


Dear Paul B,

You have always told me that family first credo, but obviously everyone does not agree. I come from a very big family, and I am a good kid. I am 19 and I love my family, but I am excluded from certain “functions” because I am gay. My parents won’t admit it, but they are ashamed of me and the way I dress. I am not about to pretend that I am straight. It just isn’t me. I am proud of who I am, and I will not hide from society because others don’t understand. I feel like telling everyone off, and ask them why I am treated differently.

Don’t you agree, that it doesn’t matter what sex you are, if you’re family, you’re all the same.



Dear JP,

I think you need to tone down your outfits, because you needn’t dress outlandishly and conspicuously just because you are gay. If you want to be treated like others, leave the “get ups” to Elton John … he can get away with it. I have no issues about you being gay, that is perfectly fine.

You must be who you are, but when you go out of your way to “shout it out,” then you may have embarrassed your family. Try the way I recommend, and see how it goes. It’s just a suggestion, but I have a feeling that this may avoid future incidents.

Paul B.


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