Dear Paul B,
What gives? I had been dating Ellen for 2 years and I pop the question and she turns me down. Then one year later she is engaged to some “turkey” (expletive removed) who I used to beat up twice a week when we were kids. He isn’t half the man I am, and I want to call her up and find out WTH happened. My folks told me to leave it alone, and move on. I think she might be doing this to get back at me. I was a great BF to her and I am angry with her.
Perhaps your “anger management” issues have peaked here and you need some professional help. You state that you are “angry” with her, yet most people would feel “hurt” instead. Matters of the heart are difficult to explain, and as much as you were a great couple for a while, she was not quite ready to accept a life long commitment with you (and it seems reasonable). One cannot “hurry love” (I feel a song breaking out) as both partners must be in sync at the time that THEY decide their mutual destiny. While trying to force her to realize that you were the best man for her, you more or less pushed her away. BTW, your parents are right, and typically they are. Move on, get some help to resolve your anger issues and try not to beat the xxxx out of people because you can. BTW, I HATE bullies, and hope you can get a grip on this problem
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