Dear Paul B,
I read that you advise parents to stay with their kids, back them up, and love them. I was just about ready to turn my daughter out last year. She had just turned 15, and had robbed me for the last time. She had stolen money before, she taken my wedding ring (that had been my Mothers,) and had even tried to sell my TV, but I caught her in time. She has had sex with boys in my house, and I had finally had enough. I am not about to tell you about her drug problem. I have three other kids that needed my guidance and love. I just got through my own alcohol rehab, and knew that Elle was going through a tough time, but I couldn’t stand it anymore. I met with counselors at school (for the 3rd time) and it finally worked. She is now on the mend and we are all helping her to regain her life back. We are planning on moving to a different neighborhood to start over for her. Thanks for telling me to hang in there. It was rough for sure, but it was worth it.
So glad to hear the great news about Elle, but you are partly to blame. Your alcohol dependence was more of a role model for her drug use than you know. Drugs are the new alcohol, and your daughter has watched you drink for many years, even as a wee little one. I hate to point the finger, but as parents, we must be aware that our children are always watching, learning (for the wrong reasons, often) and mimicking our moves as role models. Glad you’re on the wagon now, but keep an eye on Elle, because drugs can be much more difficult to kick. She really needs your entire family to love her and forgive her for her past. Try not to bring up her wayward past. Where in the heck is her father? Is he around and able to help out? Just wondering, Mom.
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