Ask Paul B: Overwhelmed at 79; Kindness Pays Off

Dear Paul B,

From what I read about your column, is that you tell your readers to “do the right thing.” Take the high ground—and you’ll be the better person. Well, I have always taken that approach. I just celebrated my 79th birthday, and I can tell you that I would not change ever. I have a neighbor who is not very friendly, but she has her reasons. She had a horrible life, and she never got over her losses of her daughter, and her husband leaving her in the middle of the night. She has nobody to care for her, or take an interest. I have been a kind neighbor, and I do what I can, when I know I can help her. She passed away about three months ago, and I received a call that she had left me almost $80,000 in a savings account. I don’t think she and I spoke more than a dozen times in 14 years, but she thought enough of me to leave me all this money. I am giving $20,000 to my church, and the rest will go towards my sons education, and perhaps a few trips for my husband and I. I cannot tell you how overwhelmed I was when I discovered this “gift” from this poor, sad, woman. I pray for her soul, and just wanted to share this story with you. It’s not about the money, but just about my gift of “friendship” to her. Thanks, Paul B.


Dear Dee,

Your words deliver the message so eloquently. I thank you so much. I think peeps will hear your passion and affection loud and clear.

— Paul B.


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