Ask Paul B: Elder Respect? You Bet!

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Dear Paul B,

I have been caring for my Dad now for six months. I knew I was “in for it,” when I get the call that he had taken a spill, at 88 no less, while climbing a ladder in his garage. He was always independent, while driving, caring for his house, and taking road trips to visit my two sisters in Indiana. After rehabbing from his hip surgery (he has a new titanium rod and screw,) I have been stopping by daily to see on his progress. I have a lady that helps him out four days a week with laundry and cooking, but I am there because HE WAS THERE FOR ME. I can’t tell you how exhilarating I feel when I see him getting back on his feet and the warmth that he shows me for caring. Here is the man that protected me, fed me, taught me about life, took me fishing, bowling, taught me how to ride my bike, and took me to more baseball games than any Dad. He was there for us all, and we all love him for that. For those of you who see that caring for an aging parent is a negative, think again. My days with MY Dad are full of smiles, giving, laughing, generosity and love for someone who taught me all about life. I am proud to be there for him. Thanks for printing this (hope you do, Paul B.)

Jack H.


Dear Jack,

If you peeps didn’t know Jack before, you do now. Jack, you have clarified and simplified how easy and fruitful it is to give back to those who deserve it. Your Dad needs you now, even though he won’t admit it, and his heart is full when you drive up to see him and give him a big hug… I know I would if my Dad were here. You see, I just turned 60 and I am now a bit older than he was when he died after a bout with pneumonia. I miss him every day, and would have enjoyed spending some time with him. You are a lucky man, Jack, and a good man as well. This is the season to give, and you are giving your Dad the best gift of all, your time and love.

Paul B


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