Ask Paul B: Winter “Weather Worries” & “My Best Friend Saved My Life”


Dear Paul B,

I have been living my life with a very big secret. I have to get it out, for fear that I will die never telling anyone. I feel like I should do something about it. Almost two years ago, my best friend Alicia would not let me go with her and a few other kids to a party. She knew that one of these teenagers was a pretty bad guy, but she liked him a lot. I thought she didn’t want me to compete for him, but she just said that he was a bad guy and didn’t want me to get in trouble. I was always worried about getting in trouble with the police, because my parents are strict. She was not afraid of anyone, but was always very protective of me and treated me like a little sister. This time, when they went out to this party, there was an accident on the way home. There were four kids in the car and Alicia and this other boy were killed when they were hit by a truck. Alicia was killed instantly and the other boy died 3 days later. I have never told anyone that she saved my life. I could have been in that car and I can only thank God and my best friend that I am still alive. I heard that the driver had been drinking. Alicia was just the best, and knew that I loved her. I know that I should tell her family about what she did for me. What can I do to make other people know how terrific she was?



Dear Angelica,

There was an obvious reason that you were “spared” that fatal night. Your PARENTS were a significant reason because they are strict with you. I feel that they, as well as Alicia were quite instrumental in this quirky and unfortunate incident. Your conscience speaks volumes when you write, and I believe that you should write a well penned letter to the media (Chicago Sun Times, New York Times, etc.) about Alicia and you. I believe that you can honor your dear friend by telling others about the risks, hazards and tremendous carnage by those who drink AND drive. You can influence others with your story, as you have had an impact on me. Through your efforts, you will be a credit to society, helping others before they become a statistic. This will help to keep Alicia’s memory alive. So glad you are alive and well. You were a great friend to her as well. Take care.

Paul B.


Dear Paul B,

I am so distressed about winter. I hate all the cold weather, and the snow. I feel that I have no energy, so what should I do about my sorry mood.


Dear Alexis,

You need to wake up, grab your butt, and shake yourself out of the doldrums. Alexis, you are healthy, young, gainfully employed with your full life ahead of you. Do NOT feel sorry for yourself. Get on with your life, and have fun. Its only WEATHER- your internal self, your energy, your happiness is derived from your inner-self. Do we understand each other?? Go to it- GF.

Paul B


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