Ask Paul B: Too Old to Live?


Too Old to Live?
Hey Paul B,

I have been around the block several times, and I am just running out of energy. My kids, and grandchild are so busy with their own lives, and I am so lonely without my late wife of 57 years. She was my courage, my strength, and my reason to get up in the morning. She fought cancer for the last 9 months of life, and I gave everything to that effort. I don’t know why I am here now. I see no value in my life.



Dear Ed,

Everyone feels that sense of loss, especially after losing your soul mate. You didn’t tell me anything about your late wife, but do you honestly think that she would want you to “give up” on yourself, after she fought to live? She knew that life is so worth living and her battle to stay alive would be in vain if you were to just “pack it up” at this point. There are so many hospitals and institutions that could use your help as a volunteer. Remember, your sweet wife is smiling down upon you, and would be proud of you as you help others. Misericordia is one such place that would appreciate your time and compassion. Good luck Ed. You sound like a great man. You can be an inspirations to others …

Paul B.


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