The Cardinal

Dear Paul B, I have lived in our great community of Arlington Heights for over 57 years. I fought for our country, raised our family here, took care of our two girls, and continue to help out with a Grandchild. I was upset to find an “epitaph,” which looked vaguely familiar when I was sitting [...]

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Dear Paul B, Nobody quite understands me, so perhaps you can help the “others” understand. I was raised here in Arlington Heights and wanted for nothing. My grades were always excellent, and I was called the “perfect child,” by my parents and even my older sister. I am caring, generous, career oriented, and I see [...]

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Dear Paul B, There is no problem here, just some advice to others (not trying to steal your thunder now,) and a few observations. My elderly Dad is now 86, and suffers from Alzheimer’s, and I am his sole care-giver. He is a sweet man, and gave his all to all of us kids his [...]

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Dear Paul B, Just a quick “thank you so very much,” for directing me to stick to the plan. It worked out so well. A little background, because it’s been 17 months now. I am 42 and pretty much gave up on men as I approached 40. I have a career that I always dreamed [...]

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Dear Paul B, I am in love with this great guy. We are dating for almost a year, but there is a big problem. He has not ever introduced me to any of his family members. I have asked him time and time again, but it’s always “later or maybe for XMAS.” It hasn’t happened [...]

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Dear Paul B, I “live with someone” who can’t stand to be with elders. She finds it sad, grotesque and even torture to spend time with them, especially in public. I am sure you know that this is not unusual, since you talk to lots of folks. I was brought up to respect seniors, and [...]

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Dear Paul B, I have fallen in love with a wonderful lady who is my soul mate. She is intelligent, funny, generous, lovely, and my very best friend. Everything is great except for the fact that my parents do not like her, and that is sad. She is not of the same background. We are [...]

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Dear Paul B, You must help me decide what to do. I am trying to do the right thing for everyone here, and it ain’t easy. I have always tried to respect all of my family, friends and neighbors. I am halfway through my life, and I am so miserable. My wife doesn’t accept everyone [...]

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Dear Paul B, My son is very popular, and a great kid. Kids are attracted to his smile, outgoing attitude, and most of all — his “courage.” Sam attends a middle class school in the northwest ‘burbs, where 90% of the students are WASPs. We are not. Recently a very nice family from Nigeria moved [...]

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Dear Paul B, What gives? I had been dating Ellen for 2 years and I pop the question and she turns me down. Then one year later she is engaged to some “turkey” (expletive removed) who I used to beat up twice a week when we were kids. He isn’t half the man I am, [...]

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Dear Paul B, You have to help me out here. I have been living with my girlfriend for 9 months and we are very tight. She told me the other day that she saw that I was talking to a dating website and trying to meet other women. I swear that I did not! I [...]

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Dear Paul B, I am 38, very friendly and accomplished, but I am all alone. I work until 5:30 and I come home and eat in my pajamas in bed. I am so tired of “telling my story” and trying to meet men. I hear of all the sad tales from my friends, and sister [...]

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