Dear Paul B,
I am not a child any longer, and I just have to tell you about my fiance. He is five years older, and I am now 22. He works for his family, and they are OK, but I feel left out. My fiance ‘G’ always counts his money and probably checks his four accounts a dozen times a day. I see him on his expensive phone always looking to see what he has. He wants us to get married before the end of the year. I really love him, but his constant need to see what his finances are is driving me nuts. I can’t even talk to him when he does this. He bought me a really beautiful ring, but I have my doubts now about him. What should I do?
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Dear Kim,
At least he has finances to keep track of. One thing that you need to know now — spending the rest of your life with someone is a long long time. If his idiosyncrasies and your pet peeves are affecting you, then you need to take a step back and put off your impending marriage. You could just be too young to settle down, or perhaps you just aren’t in love with “G.” Perhaps you are in love with “marriage, rings, materialistic issues” instead of the BIG PICTURE. Don’t walk down the aisle with this man if you don’t really love him. Divorce sucks, and you needn’t rush into this if you’re not ready. You don’t mention the length of your relationship. My rule of thumb is eighteen months minimum. So give it some thought.
Paul B
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